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Keepers\u201d \u96dc\u8a8c\uff0c\u8499\u5141\u8f49\u8f09)<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>\u201cMom and Dad, Please Listen to Me!\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Winnis Chiang<\/p>\n<p>Hey Mom and Dad,<\/p>\n<p>I hate to admit, but you may call me a person with \u201ca fierce demeanor but faint of heart.\u201d Sure, I\u2019d like to be cool, but I do care about you! As a teenager whose parents are going through midlife crisis, I have a lot to learn, but so do you!<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Please remember this period of my \u201crebellion\u201d is my time of searching for identity. I am learning to express my feelings and thoughts, not trying to sing a different tune. Don\u2019t forget that I have to live independently and face the world by myself in a few years.<\/li>\n<li>Whether you intend to encourage or discipline me, please be patient and treat me with kindness. I don\u2019t need you to stay with me all the time, but I still hope that you would spend more time to understand me.<\/li>\n<li>Trust me! By doing so, you empower me with love because I need your compassion, acceptance, respect and empathy. I need to know that as I grow, you are more at ease with me and are willing to let go.<\/li>\n<li>Please don\u2019t be angry with me for too long and don\u2019t limit my freedom too much. You have your jobs, your hobbies, and your friends, but you are the only dad (or mom) I have.<\/li>\n<li>Please talk with me without lecturing me, and listen to me with full attention. Even when we don\u2019t understand each other, I will still feel your willingness to spend time to understand me, accept me, honestly address my doubts, and talk about sensitive subjects with me.<\/li>\n<li>I will forever remember how you treat me and pray for me.<\/li>\n<li>Before you curse or even hit me, please remember that I have enough strength to revenge even though I may choose not to.<\/li>\n<li>Before you scold me and call me disobedient, uncooperative, stubborn, or lazy, please try to figure out whether something else is bothering me. I could be all stressed out due to peer pressure! May be I am not receiving the affirmation, acceptance, encouragement and care I need. I could be too tired, haven\u2019t taken any break for quite some time due to homework and extra curriculum activities. My heart could have grown stiff because of growing pains and fears. Of course, sometimes I don\u2019t know how to express myself or am affected by hormonal change.<\/li>\n<li>Instead of rejecting me when I make mistakes, please understand, accept, and support me. Haven\u2019t you experienced failures too? Please don\u2019t deny your mistakes and failures. Your integrity and courage to change are my best examples.<\/li>\n<li>As I am struggling through this difficult process of becoming an adult, I have to face setbacks and defeats. Your love for me will make it easier for me to face these teenage storms. Don\u2019t ever forget that I love you, and that you have promised to love me all your life.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Winnis Chiang, LMFT and Founder of ParentingABC.com, specializes in helping Mandarin- and Cantonese-speaking high-tech Christian parents to get along with, enjoy, influence and equip their American-born Chinese children.<\/p>\n<p>This article was originally published in April 2012 issue of \u201cFamily Keepers\u201d magazine on the subject from a teenager\u2019s perspective.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u8523\u5433\u860a\uf91f \u8001\u7238\u8001\u5abd\uff0c\u6211\u662f\u5178\u578b\u7684\u300c\u8272\u53b2\u5167\u834f\u300d\u4e4b\u5f92\uff0c\u5225\u770b\u6211\u4e00\u526f\u9177\u5230\u4e0d\u884c\u7684\u6a21\u6a23\uff0c\u5176\u5be6\u6211\u6700\u5728\u610f\u7684\uff0c\u9084\u662f\u4f60\u5011\uff01\u300c\u7576\u9752\u6625\u671f\u5152\u5973\u78b0\u4e0a\u66f4\u5e74\u671f\u7236\u6bcd\u300d\uff0c\u6211\u78ba\u5be6\u6709\u8a31\u591a\u8981\u5b78\u7684\uff0c\u4f46\u4f60\u5011\u53c8\u4f55\u5617\u4e0d\u662f\u5462\uff1f<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,17],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-583","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-20","category-sharing"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/583","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=583"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/583\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":600,"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/583\/revisions\/600"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=583"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=583"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/famrebuild.org\/sfbayarea\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=583"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}