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How to Get Over Blaming Parents<\/span><\/a> \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0HFRC – Irene<\/span><\/p>\n

There is a lot of hurt in the world, and often those hurts originate in our families. Whom\u00a0do children end up blaming for their hurt? Their parents.<\/span><\/p>\n

The only way you can heal is to move on from blaming your parents. How in the world do you do that?<\/span><\/p>\n

First, by grieving your losses.\u00a0 Place\u00a0those lost parts of your life in a casket lined with your anger, resentment and tears and bury them.<\/span><\/p>\n

The step after grieving\u00a0is acceptance. Accept parents as imperfect human beings. \u00a0Ironically, it wasn\u2019t until I became a parent myself that I\u00a0felt free. Because now I understand\u00a0how hard parenting is. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is a song \u201cWasted\u201d. The lyrics are a good reminder to not waste time on the past. I am free and healed now!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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